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I can only ADVICE myself!
Advice, It was Friday Summer evening, a week after my SEE Board. I cloudly remember his face and words. He was there for a family gathering but complained about me to my mother. She attentively listened to him as his words guided my mother to restrict me. His gaze bore into me followed by a phrase “You should start being stricter with her, otherwise in no time she will slip right there. Be careful about your respectability.” Being honest with himself, he advised me not to roam late at night, not to make male friends, and to follow what my cousins were doing. His words reverberated across the room as…
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The Modern Loneliness.
I was reading a book and contemplating some unresolved issues while seated in a lively cafe a half mile outside of the major city. Perhaps the vibrant atmosphere was created to prevent people from feeling lonely, as I did when I first entered. (Loneliness) I made an effort to pay attention to the words on the page, but I couldn’t follow them. The search for my own questions’ answers frequently keeps me up at night and the same continued even there. To escape this, and enjoy the vibrancy and the smell of fresh lily, I ordered my regular drink. Getting back to the book, I turned to the next page,…
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I don’t want to be a WIFE Material!
The escalation of flirting and sexting is so high that the so-called intellectuals often end up saying “not Wifey material.” The casual encounters take a way of judging and unhinged thoughts making the perception of “not a Wife material.” This is also the product of a patriarchal society that points outs every shade of HER but not HIS. Wifey Material, is a phrase to describe the girls who are believed to be suitable for marriage. This term talks about having some aligned characteristics and behavior to perform to be a good wife. And I would define this term as becoming something convenient and beneficial to the rigid man of society.…
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Become an ally for equality.
Ally for equality, this is a huge phrase. Offering to help, or pay, or behaving gently in the name of chivalry is not becoming an ally. These are the very minimum possession for yourself not for anyone. Presently, I don’t think we need the clarification considering the male stakes all over the world treating females as inferior in one or other ways. And, naming the bare minimum of inclusivity as becoming an ally to equality is the most hypocritical thing ever heard. We witness the dominating nature of each other irrespective of gender. We tend to blame each other when a problem arises. Pointing fingers and making excuses is the…
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Learning to Love Yourself.
Honestly, I will never stop falling in LOVE. Whether that is to love me or something around me. Learning to Love Yourself is a whole new process to value yourself. But we all are surrounded by the idea of others’ love or the commercialized one. Instead of exploring what we need deep-down, we are settling for some rom-com expectations that look like an illusion. Unrevealed Thoughts After long cross swords, today, I am here expressing myself. I believe one should be able to choose the happiness, self-time, and environment they want to vibe. In short, choose yourself every time. Give yourself the validation you seek. And for this, the saying…
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The Misinterpretation of Body Language.
A language is a valuable tool and we use body language from the day we are firstborn. The examination of body language across cultures is based upon gender biases. We have internalized and ingrained the gender roles around the very general way of behaving. And, also after going through the appalling flash of #MeToo cases and enormously looking around, it seems the men cannot differentiate when it comes to verbal statements. So, the misinterpretation makes valid sense because my silence is termed as my approval, which is not. Unrevealed Thoughts Unfortunately, “The societal learning is producing the wilds.” And, it’s high time the teaching process must change. Indeed, for all…
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How to figure out Splitting Bills?
With people, there are different perceptions when it comes to splitting the bills. I have seen people dependent upon their partner while some touched with the chapter of equality trying to bring change. Whether, it’s an engaged relationship, friendship, or just the normal hangout, there remains the term partnership. And, as you’re involved in that relationship of partnership, both parties need to be involved in the finance. I know, this seems quite perplexing for the instant moment as we are not normalized by this culture. But honestly, splitting bills is drama-free. Unrevealed Thoughts There’s a particular topic that seems to get arise whenever we are on a date or just…
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Is Male Privilege Real?
I understand it’s difficult to admit your privilege is real when you have allocated to very-very little despite it. If you don’t have to think about it, it’s a privilege that you have. And, the male privilege is something like that. Meanwhile, having privilege doesn’t mean your life isn’t hard but the thing is not for the bare minimum things that most of the people around you are battling for. And, this is very substantial, my dear. Male privilege, the advantages that are available to men or male members solely based on their sexual identity. In short, the identity that won’t be the reason for your difficulties as ours. And,…
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Unsolicited Opinions From Random people.
The opinion is a statement or judgment formed about something apart from the fact. And, unsolicited opinions, the statement is often given whether we want them or not. Unfortunately, the second one is immensely popular without realizing the negative spin. Let’s begin with my chapter. Down the memory lane, I’m a fairly brown girl. I have curls and well defined small waist and rounded bottom and a little more than to wafer-thin, willowy. Growing up, I was the talk of my family. Especially, for being brown and thin. Every visited guest would knock me and make fun of me. They also advised randomly. And, this continued for long years. The…
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What are the green flags in a relationship?
Throughout all the context, the “Green Flags” means to begin, to reframe, to look positive, to communicate, and to hold each other, and so on. We have talked about Red-Flags in the last blog post. So today, we are here with Green Flags. Flags are the INDICATORS. The greens are for the positive attributes and the red ones are the ones that intuitively tell you to stop. The wrong signs that drain you. This is not a comprehensive list and only captures some of the ways to find. Let’s dig deep, We often jump to the things that we yearn for, as soon we are in a relationship, without thinking…
