I understand it’s difficult to admit your privilege is real when you have allocated to very-very little despite it. If you don’t have to think about it, it’s a privilege that you have. And, the male privilege is something like that.
Meanwhile, having privilege doesn’t mean your life isn’t hard but the thing is not for the bare minimum things that most of the people around you are battling for. And, this is very substantial, my dear.
Male privilege, the advantages that are available to men or male members solely based on their sexual identity. In short, the identity that won’t be the reason for your difficulties as ours. And, all this is co-related benefiting from this male-dominated society, the great and simple access to resources.
But here, we still can witness the differences in same-sex to have access to same privilege maybe because of races, ethnicity, geography, and a lot of aspects. However, this blog is just a piece based on the life chapter I lived and living in. Something real experiences that I faced and tolerated just because of being a GIRL by birth and not being accessible to all those privileges that I could have.
The depth talk,
The ideologies of males being superior are real. And, when it comes to acknowledging privilege, men have mastered the art of ignoring pointing on the fun-size. I’m so sure about this is because I’ve seen people around growing with this ingrained thought of males are superiors. The Male is the one who leads the family and strengthens it. They are masculine and the only reasonable thought holder and the one who disagrees is being irrational. No wonder, this ideology gives birth to “toxic masculinity.”
Surprisingly, this is supported by the alarming women of our society. They teach you to be the GOOD woman which ends on treating the men in their highest form. It seems this male-dominated society has appointed them to teach and to maintain the sanctity of male-masculine behave at the cost of silence that hunts. I think this silence is the vital reason that the male privilege is expanding its roots from home to office to bedchambers. Inherently, getting appreciated for their loud voices is a prominent construct of society that’s often ignored just because the sugar mixture is less in the cup of tea offered to him. What does period pain feel like?
The real flips,
- I hate when males do the bare minimum and explain as the whole foundation is built by them.
- I hate when my cousins and sisters and friends do not feel safe to go out late at night where my male friends and cousins are privileged. They talk about our safety but from whom? – the same privileged male that roams around freely.
- I hate when I need male permission to just visit my friends who are living nearby. I hate when I cannot make my voice louder even when I intentionally want.
- Despised, the male mindset and tone of “I am working.” The sip of tea and the political talk is what they do.
- I don’t like when my early twenties are filled with marriage proposals where the men are allowed to decide on their own.
- I hate when after decades of marriage she is treated as an outsiders but the same son-in-law is everyone’s favorite within the week.
There is a lot. A lot that I cannot even mention here. But this all is real to its existence. The exemption for house chores and encouragement for a career is the favor that a male receives, while the other bears the bulk of family care and to-do list. From barbaric practice named Sati to facing sexual assault and harassment and limitations, all are placed on her.
Somewhere I read, females, are culturally treated as God, and what more does she needs? Frankly, she needs the courage to reply to you what does she need, initially and in the same manner. We don’t want to be the God because if we are “I don’t need your privilege to protect mine.” Ironically, the goddess is also a burden in some places. What does it feels to be harassed?
uprear, male privilege
I am in my early twenty and honestly, I am trying my best to voice and utilize the bare minimum privilege. But, I wonder ever they felt the urge to be treated as equal as men, to live high-headed?-I’m sure the patriarchy has different set rules to define such thundering voices. As they curse and taunt me.
Haven’t they tired of being sideline? Don’t they feel trapped and angrily point out the male privilege in household chores? Why they are so proud and adamant to uphold and pass this biased tradition? Why does she tolerate the abuse of bedchambers?
I have seen such women who desperately want to follow even though the male privilege wants to accommodate her validating her. And, honestly, I feel anger at such women who blames themselves even the wrong is her male.
I think the answer to all these questions is the existing mindset of patriarchal upbringing. Also, the praise, the adulation, the family fear, the stigma, and the shame of divorce are the mixture that goes hand in hand. The fear to get affected physically, socially makes her believe this is normal. As from generation, the anger issues of the male have been justified. The beautiful love lines often solve the problem in the case we are witnessing but they may be the apparatus. And, you never know, your silence becomes your formidable weakness and the culture to inherent for the coming generation.
The final word,
No wonder, male privilege exists everywhere a dab of or slightly, it exists. Because women are led to believe the male statements are true and they are your steward socially appointed. The gender roles that favor men. Because they are allowed to disagree and right to address without being pointed and taunted on reputation and all. If not, then why his privilege is required to protect my feminine identity? Marital Rape
And also, we as an individual having the privilege to speak should not be viewed as guilt. An opportunity to learn and be responsible towards an inclusive world, irrespective. But the fact, here is we tend to ignore which means we are ignoring the difficulties and shame faced by our mother, sisters, and all. Acknowledging is realizing, and realizing is helping.
If you believe in gender equality, it is not hard to understand the societal gap which is unfair and not in the interest of families as a whole. If you contemplate, you will realize this is the very beginning of every sort of imbalance that you’re facing or will face in the future. Because, it is problematic to place one gender on a pedestal for doing the bare minimum, while the other bears the bulk of chores. Don’t let her believe, this is her NORMAL because surely, this is not.
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