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I can only ADVICE myself!
Advice, It was Friday Summer evening, a week after my SEE Board. I cloudly remember his face and words. He was there for a family gathering but complained about me to my mother. She attentively listened to him as his words guided my mother to restrict me. His gaze bore into me followed by a phrase “You should start being stricter with her, otherwise in no time she will slip right there. Be careful about your respectability.” Being honest with himself, he advised me not to roam late at night, not to make male friends, and to follow what my cousins were doing. His words reverberated across the room as…
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Forgive your kind heart!
Forgive is a sturdy word; it takes a lot to define this journey. It’s been four long years. And, I forgave him. Simply, because my brain and heart couldn’t afford to remember the mishap that separated us. The album of memories, the train of relationships, and the craved plot of the future ended on a good note. Now, I can assure you it was good to end. I remember, a friend in my high school days brutally damaged my confidence. Her direct criticism wasn’t supportive at all. And, I do have several experiences that explain the reason for me being slightly calculative while selecting my circle, it takes an extreme…
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The Modern Loneliness.
I was reading a book and contemplating some unresolved issues while seated in a lively cafe a half mile outside of the major city. Perhaps the vibrant atmosphere was created to prevent people from feeling lonely, as I did when I first entered. (Loneliness) I made an effort to pay attention to the words on the page, but I couldn’t follow them. The search for my own questions’ answers frequently keeps me up at night and the same continued even there. To escape this, and enjoy the vibrancy and the smell of fresh lily, I ordered my regular drink. Getting back to the book, I turned to the next page,…
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I don’t want to be a WIFE Material!
The escalation of flirting and sexting is so high that the so-called intellectuals often end up saying “not Wifey material.” The casual encounters take a way of judging and unhinged thoughts making the perception of “not a Wife material.” This is also the product of a patriarchal society that points outs every shade of HER but not HIS. Wifey Material, is a phrase to describe the girls who are believed to be suitable for marriage. This term talks about having some aligned characteristics and behavior to perform to be a good wife. And I would define this term as becoming something convenient and beneficial to the rigid man of society.…
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The stigma of being SLIM.
There are no body ideals but still, we promote them through different mediums. The tall, the slim, the ratio, the V-shape, the standard construction, and many more offer the acceptance gap. The BODY talk is associated with the insecurities that we offer irrespective of being slimmer or chubby. Honestly, I do not know at what age I was taught to love but definitely can remember at what age I was taught to hate myself. Growing up, I gained the height but I didn’t gain the weight. And, there I fall under the skinny category. We as a society have different categories for different body shapes. We have a scale of…
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The stigma behind not shaving my legs.
Shaving is not my thing. YES, I don’t shave and I had confronted this multiple times. I stand in the shower and enjoy the water drops marking the edge between the hairs. Within me, it raises the level of the epitome of romance. That’s only the place where I don’t get judged for having hairy armpits or legs. I’ve confronted and even after that, people expect me to hold the razor of leading ad so I can wear the shorts, skirts, and sleeveless. Multiple times, they pointed toward my hairy legs saying that makes them embarrassed. To this, it has given me insight into why body hair is considered dirt…
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Become an ally for equality.
Ally for equality, this is a huge phrase. Offering to help, or pay, or behaving gently in the name of chivalry is not becoming an ally. These are the very minimum possession for yourself not for anyone. Presently, I don’t think we need the clarification considering the male stakes all over the world treating females as inferior in one or other ways. And, naming the bare minimum of inclusivity as becoming an ally to equality is the most hypocritical thing ever heard. We witness the dominating nature of each other irrespective of gender. We tend to blame each other when a problem arises. Pointing fingers and making excuses is the…
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Learning to Love Yourself.
Honestly, I will never stop falling in LOVE. Whether that is to love me or something around me. Learning to Love Yourself is a whole new process to value yourself. But we all are surrounded by the idea of others’ love or the commercialized one. Instead of exploring what we need deep-down, we are settling for some rom-com expectations that look like an illusion. Unrevealed Thoughts After long cross swords, today, I am here expressing myself. I believe one should be able to choose the happiness, self-time, and environment they want to vibe. In short, choose yourself every time. Give yourself the validation you seek. And for this, the saying…
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The Misinterpretation of Body Language.
A language is a valuable tool and we use body language from the day we are firstborn. The examination of body language across cultures is based upon gender biases. We have internalized and ingrained the gender roles around the very general way of behaving. And, also after going through the appalling flash of #MeToo cases and enormously looking around, it seems the men cannot differentiate when it comes to verbal statements. So, the misinterpretation makes valid sense because my silence is termed as my approval, which is not. Unrevealed Thoughts Unfortunately, “The societal learning is producing the wilds.” And, it’s high time the teaching process must change. Indeed, for all…
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How to figure out Splitting Bills?
With people, there are different perceptions when it comes to splitting the bills. I have seen people dependent upon their partner while some touched with the chapter of equality trying to bring change. Whether, it’s an engaged relationship, friendship, or just the normal hangout, there remains the term partnership. And, as you’re involved in that relationship of partnership, both parties need to be involved in the finance. I know, this seems quite perplexing for the instant moment as we are not normalized by this culture. But honestly, splitting bills is drama-free. Unrevealed Thoughts There’s a particular topic that seems to get arise whenever we are on a date or just…
